Blow His Mind – Or Just Blow Him: 9 Tips for Giving a Good Blow Job

As a Romance Party Consultant, I notice how many women get embarrassed when mentioning giving oral sex to a man.  However, there is no need for you to feel self-conscious or ashamed by doing this good-deed to your man.  The truth is most women have given or give their partner oral sex.  It is just their little dirty secret.  So whether you scream it from the rooftop or keep it just between you and your man, a good blow-job could change your sexual experience. (I will discuss the social taboos of oral sex in another post).  Not including that most men not only desire but also enjoy receiving oral sex, it is necessary to know the dos and do nots of a good blow-job.

So if you have not started kissing your man in all the right places, try something new.  One of the greatest pleasures of sex is not only receiving pleasure but also giving it, and tis the season for giving.  Here are 9 tips for improving your oral sex skills:

1.     Get it wet.  Lick him down, get his penis nice and lubricated.  Friction can be uncomfortable.  So while your BJ does not have to be super sloppy, to where you are drooling all over yourself and him, it should be wet.  Nevertheless, some men like the super wet and sloppy BJs.  Thus do whatever works for you and him, just make sure to keep it wet.

2.     Stroke it.  You should not only be using your mouth and tongue to please your man but you should also use your hands.  Don’t grab his penis like you are afraid of it but don’t rip it off either. A nice firm grip stroking his penis at varying speeds, lengths, and pressures.  Also, do not forget to switch your hand positions, just make sure that it is all in rhythm with your mouth.

3.     Use your tongue.  Roll your tongue around the tip of his penis. Get creative.

4.     Don’t forget his testicles.  Rub, caress, massage and stroke his testicles.  Again be mindful of your pressure.

5.     No teeth.  Use your lips to cover your teeth and then gradually slide your lips down to the base of his penis and come back up.  Again, some men like the feeling of teeth against his penis, so this will be something you will have to learn about your partner.

6.     Initiate.  I recently read an article, which stated that 80% of men wanted their woman to greet them with oral sex, when they walked through the door.  This may be a bit much but you can always initiate it. 

7.     Stick your finger in his anus.  Now this may be a big “no, no” with some men, but the anus is a major erogenous zone for men.  Again this will be something that you will have to learn about your man.

8.     Take a break.  Give him oral sex for a little while and then stop.  You could either initiate sex or play with another area of his body.  After taking a short break, start to give him more oral sex.  Mixing oral sex with regular sex can be a definite turn on.

9.     Enjoy it.  In speaking with a few of my male correspondents, they all agree oral sex is better when their woman is in to it. 

Overall, any type of good sex only occurs if you know what your partner likes.  Take time to learn what your partner likes.  Ask him what does he like, watch his body when you do something, and be open to taking direction. 

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