The Man Behind the Woman: A Tribute to My Father

"I just owe almost everything to my own father. I really do. He brought me up to believe all the things that I do believe and they're just the values on which I've fought the election. And it's passionately interesting for me that the things that I learned in a small town, in very modest home, are just the things that I believe have won the election."~ Margaret Thatcher

They say behind every strong man is a stronger woman.  I believe that behind every strong woman, is a loving father.  Now, this is not to say that women, who did not grow up with a father, are not strong but this is to say that there is something special about a father’s love.  The bond between a father and daughter is special and difficult to put into words.  This is something that every Daddy’s Girls know.

So for this Father’s day I wanted to share with you some of the best advice my father has given me:


1.     “Be a strong independent woman. Do not depend on, no man, always be able to take care of yourself”. This is something my father has told me from a very early age. In fact this is the first piece of advice my father shared with me.  This advice combined with my father’s stellar work ethic taught me the importance of hard work and perseverance.


2.      “Do not worry about what everyone else is doing.  If you feel it is the right thing to do - do it. Do not be bullied into silence.”  My father taught me to be a woman of my word and to work from integrity.  He always pushes me to treat others kindly even when I think they do not deserve it.


3.     “Sometimes, you have to take a little s*** to get what you want”.  I am a direct, straightforward, and go-getting type of person.  I do not play games or say things I do not have any intentions of doing.  However, I had to learn, the hard way, most people are not like this and even when people say give it to them “straight” they really do not mean it or they cannot handle it.  So I learned to play the game, stay humble yet focused.


My father is a simple hardworking man, who prides himself on taking care and providing for his family.  Although, he is not a rich man; he has filled my life with a wealth of knowledge and wisdom.  More importantly, he loves me and encourages me to be a woman of integrity, courage, and strength.

“My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me.” ~Jim Valvano

"It is admirable for a man to take his son fishing, but there is a special place in heaven for the father who takes his daughter shopping." - John Sinor