Releasing the Shame and Guilt After an Abortion – Part 2

Overcoming and moving beyond the stigma of having an abortion can be difficult.  Society has shamed women into believing they are morally wrong for making a decision about what to do with their bodies.  However, having an abortion does not define you! It is a small part of your story and your story is filled with so much more joy, adventure and obstacles.

Here are three steps for overcoming the stigma of having an abortion:

After an Abortion

1.     Accept your decision. Do not try to ignore this decision or pretend that it never happen, recognize it for what it is.  You cannot change the past. I know I keep saying this but it is important for you to know, having an abortion does not define who you are.

2.     Recognize the reasons you made your decision and that they were important to you at that time.  Recognize the circumstances you were in when you made the decision and acknowledge the information you had when you made the decision. Hindsight is 20/20 and no one knows what the future holds; so acknowledge and accept that you did the best you could with the information you had at that time.


3.     Let it out.  While this may not be an experience you want to scream from the rooftop, speaking with someone about it will be very therapeutic.  Speak with someone you trust, this could be a friend, a relative or even a religious leader or a professional.  You never know, while abortions are very stigmatized, many women have received them.  You will find that you are not the only one holding it in.  There are also support groups online that you can become apart of, so you can share and hear other woman stories. You are not alone.

Whatever process you have to go through to relieve the stigma, guilt or shame with your decision go through it.  It will not be an easy journey.  However, it is never easy journey when you are in the process of discovering and coming to terms with yourself.

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