Introverts can sometimes be misunderstood. However, do not mistake introverts for being shy or for disliking social interactions. Instead recognize that introverts prefer more intimate and personal social interactions compared to superficial ones. Introverts can do very exciting and adventures things, such as extroverts; however, they need personal time to recharge their batteries.
So, if you are like me and are an introvert here are a few tips for dating because some people may not understand our multifaceted demeanor.
Good listening Skills
1. As an introvert you are a good listener. So use the information you learn from listening to start a conversation. For instance, if you hear someone say they like football. Ask them what is their favorite team and start to talk about football.
Avoid Large Groups in the Beginning
2. For the first few dates do only one on one dates. Large groups can be overwhelming. So until you get comfortable with someone, do not do dates in large groups. The process of getting to know someone is already draining. So do not double the stress by doing group dates until you feel comfortable with your new boo.
Be Upfront about Who You Are
3. Be upfront that you are an introvert and that you require time alone. Some people may confuse that you need time alone, for not being interested. Be honest. If he really likes you, he will accept you for who you are.
Avoid Chatter Boxes
4. Some people feel the need to talk more, when the other person does not talk as much. These people may not be able to pick up on the subtle clues that you are listening and are waiting for your time to chime in. As an introvert you need to be around people, who can look beneath the surface because your temperament can be misunderstood as arrogant or shy. This over talking can drain you. Plus it will not allow you the opportunity to express yourself.
Step Outside of Your Comfort Zone
5. Just because you are an introvert does not mean you should not push your social limits. Challenge yourself to grow. This does not mean being someone you are not, but this means trying something new every once in a while. This can include going on a double date or doing an adventures date. Being an introvert is a part of who you are and it should not define who you are.
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