5 Small Ways to Take Time for Yourself Everyday

Sometimes it seems like your day may be nothing more than working, sleeping and eating.  The days start to blend together and your head starts to feel like it is about to explode.  Yes, balancing work, children, life, boyfriends, husbands, family, friends, cooking and cleaning can be a true balancing act.  However, we all have to take time and be in the moment and just relax. 

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Releasing the Shame and Guilt After an Abortion

“At least half of American women will experience an unintended pregnancy by age 45, and (in) at 2008 abortion rates, one in 10 women will have an abortion by age 20, one in four by age 30 and three in 10 by age 45.”(Guttmacher)


There is much stigma surrounding obtaining an abortion.  However, the fact is by the age of 30, 1 in 4 women would have experienced an abortion.  So if you are one of those women, know that you are not alone!

 Nearly half of pregnancies in America are unplanned and there are only three choices to choose from when faced with this unintentional circumstance. Your first choice is to parent, second to have an abortion and the third to place for adoption.  What you decide to do with a pregnancy is completely up to you.  Society will have many opinions about your decision; however, you have to be confident that you made the best decision for yourself.  No body knows your story or your life path the same way you do.

 Making the decision to have an abortion was not easy.  There were many factors to consider and whatever choice you would have made would have greatly affected your life.  So if you are here reading this page, I am certain that you thought carefully about your decision.

 You may be feeling guilt or spiritually injured because you became pregnant out of wedlock and had an abortion, but I want to applaud you for making this difficult decision and taking back your control.  In life there are going to be many people who have opinions about what you decide. Nevertheless we still have to do what is best for ourselves.  So while you might be trying figure out how having an abortion plays out in your life story, I am here to tell you that you are a survivor.  Do whatever, spiritually you have to do to find forgiveness for yourself.  Follow your dreams and accomplish your goals.  Respect your body and surround yourself with positive people who will not only respect you but also accept you.

 All the emotions you have experienced behind having abortion are natural.  This was not an easy decision.  It is only natural to experience grief, loss, bewilderment, anger, relief, shame or guilt.  When making tough decisions, it is expected to feel overwhelmed; however, do not to feel discouraged.  Having an abortion does not define who you are and is only a part of your life story.

So release your pain because you are one step closer and one day closer to moving beyond this decision and toward the next chapter of your life.

 Cupid’s Planner hopes every woman realizes that they are gems and have an innate ability to conquer and overcome challenges.  We want to empower women to move beyond any shame or doubt around their sexuality to take control over their life path and reproductive systems. Contact Cupid if you would like to discuss our relationship and intimacy coaching services.